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I guess that sounded a bit harsher than I meant it to.  I just worry about 
the whole "lifestyle change."  I just got things going right!  I need to 
enjoy it for a few years.

I do like children - I enjoy them when they are old enough to really 
interact with, toddler and up.  I am not a big fan of infants - I guess I am 
a bit opposite to other folks who gush over babies.  I love spending time 
with my 15 year old niece and my 5&7 year old nephews.  The all are 
interested in the horses and I have fun teaching them things about horses.

I guess my aversion to having a child is caused by family.  If we did not 
live close to them, having a child would be easier.  Both of our families 
hold the belief that if I become pregnant, a switch will go off and I will 
become June Cleaver.  They are always trying to find someone's infant so 
they can make me hold it - hoping that switch will go off.  They were 
thrilled when my best friend got pregnant - they just knew I would follow 
suit.  I keep hearing stuff about how I am getting old (will be 28 this 
year) and how the child will have problems if I wait much longer, etc.  All 
this does is make me want more horses and no children.  Plus, I have seen 
how they are with my sister in law.  They think she is a terrible mother and 
are always harping on her because she leaves the children with family so she 
can go do stuff on the weekends.  They think that a child should cause a 
total lifestyle change and everything else should go by the wayside.

When a having child was discussed, one family member recommended a good 
auction barn to send the horses through.  They really think that horses have 
no place in my life if I become pregnant.  And, they will make my life a 
living heck for it.

Hubby feels that way to a degree, but would relent and let me keep the 
horses.  It would take a fight, but I am stubborn. In the end, he knows that 
horses are what makes me happy and he wants me to be happy.  It would just 
be much much easier if we did not have a crazy family!


Mel


> From: rides2far@xxxxxxxx
> To: brio_gal@xxxxxxxxxxx
> CC: ridecamp@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
> Subject: unsupportive spouse/procreating
> Date: Mon, 20 Mar 2006 11:21:21 -0500
>
> > my refusal to sell horses just because I have been "blessed" with a
> > dependant life form that everyone thinks should cause me to end my
> > life's > enjoyment just so my world can revolve around it.  Yup, if I
> ever
> > get > pregnant, WWIII will happen at my place.  Everyone just assumes
> that
> > the > horses would go away and that is dead wrong.
> >> How do you gals do it?
>
> Where do you think junior riders come from? Having kids & continueing to
> ride has been absolutely no problem here. They have a daddy too. A couple
> of hours in the afternoon and early Saturday mornings is no big
> deal...that's called quality daddy time. They love it. That's when they
> get to have ice cream for breakfast & such. I'd say the bigger problem
> is...do you like kids? Doesn't sound like you have any urge to be around
> them. If that's the case I doubt you need one.  I had an absolute ball
> getting to have little ponies around for them to ride, setting up jumps
> and games in the yard for them, etc. I'm already scouting out for a good
> pony for my grandchildren, and my oldest daughter is just 19 and not even
> close to engaged...but you know, a good pony is hard to find so I figure
> I'd just better get started. :-)
>
> P.S.  When your kid rides, you've always got a training partner.
>
> Angie

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