Ridecamp: Re: [RC] A question/ training husbands

Now you Angie, could have taught that June Cleaver a thing or two. She really made it tough on the rest of us.

amber, I have a name for June Baby, but Heidi will slam me if I use it.

 

 

 

> > start endurance training with me but she has the same 
problem. She has
> two small  boys who are also into "motors" of any 
kind and a husband that
>  always seems to have other things >to 
do. Now I'd like to hear from the
> guys on the list...how do we get  
across to  our spouses (or our friends
> spouses) that this is a 
chance for an  individual to complete other goals
> aside from 
>being "mom"?
> 
> I'm not a guy, but I've got a great husband 
who has worked with me on
> this hobby of mine for a long time.  
Here's a little advice on how to
> make it work.  First, don't say, 
"I'm going riding Saturday morning, can
> you watch the boys?"  You 
say, "What are your plans for Saturday?"  Make
> him commit first. 
>g<  If he's got plans, work around them.  I'm amazed
> 
how many women just assume they're the only one who had a long week at
> 
work and might have an idea what they wanted to do this weekend.
> 
> A good way to work the deal to get the prime weekend time 
(Saturday
> early) is to let the kids stay up late Friday night watching a 
movie or
> something.  If Dad & boys stay up watching TV till 
1:30 AM and mom goes
> to bed at 9, you should probably be able to get in 
a darned nice early
> ride... a good 5 hours, practically before they drag 
it out of bed the
> next morning.  I did a *lot* of that kind of 
training. Sort of working it
> where they never knew I was gone.
> 
> A tip:  NEVER blame being cranky on PMS.  Say, "I'm sorry, I 
haven't
> ridden lately and I'm feeling cranky. I apologize"  Start 
to get him to
> associate all your bad behavior with lack of ride 
time.
> 
> NEVER come home from a ride and act like it makes you not 
want to:  Cook,
> watch kids, clean house, or ....ummm...whatever. 
You get my drift?  Do
> not give him any reason to associate your bad 
behavior with riding.  When
> you come home from a ride hug everyone, 
be happy, cook something that's
> easy but will impress guys (they think 
macaroni & cheese is a big deal) 
> As a matter of fact, if you tend 
to watch your weight and make them eat
> low fat, this is a good time to 
FRY something. :-)
> 
> Train your man like you would your 
horse.  You've gotta use positive
> reinforcement every time you can, 
and make unacceptable behavior
> unpleasant.
> 
> Angie 
(raising 2 kids, happily married 20 years. Competing in endurance
> rides 
15)
> 
> 
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