Re: [RC] relationships with non-horsey people - Mary Ann Spencer
Very good points!!! Unfortunately, nice guys
of any kind are hard to find. My ex got really nasty about my horse
'habit'. Was not a pretty scene.................
Subject: [RC] relationships with
non-horsey people
For the life of me I can't figure out why so many obsessive
horse lovers think they'd only match up with another obsessive horse lover.
If you marry someone with the same bad habit you've got it DOUBLES the cost
of every ride (believe me I know, I've got a junior)
I've been
*very* happily married for 24 1/2 years now and would not trade my
non-horse loving husband for anything. What I recommend is you look for a
guy who enjoys maintaining property, keeping a vehicle
serviced, financially supporting his family, spending quality time with his
kids, camping, and watching his wife have a good time. :-)) Some of my
favorite people who are always at the rides never get on a horse and they
seem to enjoy the sport as much as any of us.
My husband enjoys
trail riding, and has done one 50 miler which he thought "was no big deal"
but I wouldn't think of encouraging him to become a real competitor. Last
year he bought a kayak and I was thrilled. I think if both of you have
something you enjoy doing and support each other it's great for the
marriage...sometimes to go participate together (I got a kayak too) and
sometimes to go off and spend a weekend apart. (always nice to come back
home). My favorite thing about the kayak is that it fits on top of his jeep
so we can both go off for the day without fighting over the truck.
:-))
