I am a lawyer and a teacher. Public speaking is not a problem for me. However, the mean spirit of some of the frequent posters in this group prevents me from posting most of the time. This is a valuable group with a lot of really good things to say and there is a lot of knowledge held by members who are willing to teach newbies and experienced people alike. However, most of it gets lost in the nastiness. I feel bad when I see a new person post to the group, eager to learn, because I know that they will soon see the venom. It seems that the lesson most taught in this group is that endurance riders are not very nice people, when actually that is not a true statement nor is it representative of most of the people on this list or in the sport.
Maybe it would help if people would start their post with, "In my experience" and then check themselves as they type, remembering that what they are saying is filtered through the perspective of their experience. I have started to delete the back and forth posts from people who dissect each others posts. I used to respect and learn from those people. Now I roll my eyes and delete them.
Karen Lynd
--- On Sun, 7/20/08, Bruce Weary <bweary@xxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
From: Bruce Weary <bweary@xxxxxxxxxxxx> Subject: [RC] Internet dialog To: ridecamp@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Date: Sunday, July 20, 2008, 11:45 PM
I think the reason that only a minority of folks are willing to post
on any given forum is an extension of the widespread human fear of
public speaking.
Jerry Seinfeld observed that most people fear public speaking more
than death! He says that means at a funeral most of us would rather be
in the casket than doing the eulogy!:>
I do think if it was more in our nature (and I am JUST as guilty as
anyone of not saying these things more often) to say things like:
"That's interesting. Tell me more,"
or, as Wayne Dyer would say, "Here's my way. What's your way? THE
way
doesn't exist." Dr Q, who is often wrong, but never in doubt.
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