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I am married to the non-horsey type and get a mix of comments.  Luckily I 
can read him well enough to know which ones to ignore and which ones need 
education.

For the most part he is supportive and will pitch in on chores and care.  He 
encourages me to go riding and will continue to do so until I am gone so 
much that he is threatened by it.  He realizes that the horses are what 
makes me happy.  I have come to realize that no matter how much I want it, 
he will never participate with me in equine activities.

I see a huge problem on the horizon.  The family is pressuring us to 
reproduce and I am holding off as long as I can because I know that there 
will be problems.  Riding while pregnant would cause major battles as would 
my refusal to sell horses just because I have been "blessed" with a 
dependant life form that everyone thinks should cause me to end my life's 
enjoyment just so my world can revolve around it.  Yup, if I ever get 
pregnant, WWIII will happen at my place.  Everyone just assumes that the 
horses would go away and that is dead wrong.

How do you gals do it?

Oh, and we keep our money seperate because of the horses - every now and 
then I get a comment about how much money I put into the horses...and how I 
go without other things to do it.  I relpy with "it is my money and my 
choice"

Mel




> From: "Sisu West Ranch" <ranch@xxxxxxxxxxx>
> To: <afwaldrip@xxxxxxxxxxxx>,<ridecamp@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
> Subject: Re: [RC]   Abusing Horse
> Date: Mon, 20 Mar 2006 08:04:47 -0700
>
> The problem with spouses who are not into horses, is trying to figure out 
> if their comments are really out of concern for the horse, or just passive 
> aggressive.
>
> If they are just concerned for the horses welfare, education in the form of 
> books, advice from vets, and even the experience of going to endurance 
> rides is the way to go.  We have a friend who doesn't ride but instead 
> builds trucks and trailers for his endurance wife.  He also.crews for her
>
> If on the other hand, the spouse is actually hostile to your horse 
> addiction you have a problem.  Logic and education will never solve that 
> problem.  You will have to get your own money (if they are also cheap), 
> schedule your rides in advance (sudden family obligations are a favorite 
> ploy), and learn to ignore their comments.  The guaranteed solution 
> (termination of the relationship) is drastic and not to be entered into 
> lightly.
>
> Wendy and I both thank our lucky stars that we are both horse addicted.  It 
> has made the last decade the best years of our lives!
>
> Ed
>
>
> Ed & Wendy Hauser
> 2994 Mittower Road
> Victor, MT 59875
>
> (406) 642-9640
>
> ranch@xxxxxxxxxxx

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