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Re: [RC] kids~one likes hores, the other???? - Jon . LindermanI don't claim to be Oprah, Dr Phil, or Dr Spock, (Dr Jon, but who cares) In our house everyone loves horses.......just not everyone is into distance riding. My oldest found his love in harness racing & I spend 2 days/week at the track racing his horse w/him, 1 night a week @ 4H & 1 show/month w/middle child (shes done some distance, but its too far from the mall now!), wife did dressage until little suprise #3 arrived in February. So for me its my thing and I am grateful they all are into horses & accept each has his/her own interests. I cringe at my younger friends who insist their daughter will show/compete "or else" as bad as the thread last year on how to "trick" hubby into joining the missus at rides. One day the ribbons will fade, the blanket awards will be moth-eaten, the fence posts will fall down & I'll be too old to run the weed whacker or stack hay. I hope to God I'll have happy kids, horses or not. Do I feel guilty...yes a little, but I devote as much time to them instead of coercing them to be involved in my stuff. Wife says she wants to do more distacne when the breast feeding is done so that's cool. #1 son will go to college in a year, who knows if middel child will stay w/horses, and baby........anyon'es guess. Endurnace it what I do, not my life.....family is my life. I wouldn't trade 20,000 miles and 20 buckles for those 3.
Jon I have a kid question, do any of you here, have one child that wants to ride and the other does not? I have an 8 yr. old son who wants to ride, and a 10 year old daughter thinking that she doesn't want to anymore. We finally got the "right" kind of horses for the kids to learn on and feel comfortable to go out and trail ride. We bought a horse for my daughter in Feb. and she was all gung-ho, and now she's fizzled out, say's she wants no part. I've asked her if she's scared, "no", I've asked her all kinds of questions, and basically she just say's "nah" to the whole thing. I told her that was fine originally that I wasn't going to force her to do something that she didn't want to do, but she had to realize that everyone else "still" wanted to ride, and how was it going to be when mom, dad, and brother wanted to ride and she had to go stay with someone, is she going to feel left out? How do you guy's deal with it? I know she will ultimately feel left out, it's her nature to, and I know that mom's going to be riding feeling guilty and heartbroke that she's not along. Any advice?
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