Re: [RC] horse partners vs horse husbands - Heidi Smith
>It has sparked a new appreciation for what my husband does for me, and
my critters since reading these emails, from eveyone, sometimes hearing other
stories about the fix it man, really does shine alight on what a horse husband
is, basically the HUSBAND of a horse wife. A horse partner is a different
relationship, for he is a horse person in his self, it is true what Jon said,
not to change a person, I am on # 3 husband, and all though the last 2 always
helped me with my horse world niether of them rode. and after 12 years with my
horse husband, who does fence, pound, haul hay, water, and fix it he willn ever
ride, a horse, and I dont hold on to changing that in the future, it is my
passion and he says, as we shared a bath last night, and I asked him Why do you
love what I do with the horses, he said
Because it brings out the Passion in me, and he loves to see me
smile,
Wise words, from both of you. One need not
share every pursuit and interest with one's spouse--the important thing is to be
supportive. Although my husband and I do share an interest in the horses,
we also each have our own pursuits that the other does not share. I sing,
and am active in 2 choirs. My husband is supportive in that he enjoys
coming to hear us when the choirs perform, but he has no interest whatsoever in
singing himself. Likewise, he is an avid photographer, and has won awards
at photo shows and fairs with his pictures. He has become active in a
newly formed local photography club, and I haven't the slightest interest in
going. But I make sure he has the free time to go, and I support his
photography by occasionally going to help hang photos at exhibitions, or picking
photos up after exhibitions, or helping him to critique his work. (And
every once in awhile, he'll take horse pictures for me, too!) If a spouse
changes on his or her own and develops a previously unvisited interest in
something you like, enjoy. But otherwise, trying to pressure one to change
may well jeopardize the very relationship you sought with them in the first
place!
