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RE: [RC] Horses and Husbands - Whiteaker, SteveTamara - For the first 18 years of our marriage, I wanted nothing to do with horses. In fact, I was very resentful of my wife's attempts to get me interested in horses during our early years together. After about 5 years, she resigned herself to the fact that I was never going to be involved in that part of her life. Then 3 years ago, her mare foaled and I agreed to help her with imprint training. Well, that hooked me and now I'm a bigger horse nut than she is! You can't make your husband like horses. Maybe he'll come around and maybe he won't. But I can almost guarantee that the harder you try to get him involved the less interest he'll show. Steve -----Original Message----- From: Tamara Taylor [mailto:tam319@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] Sent: Friday, March 28, 2003 9:42 PM To: Ridecamp Hello list, My husband and I were recently married (October) and we have been together for 4 years. Life is grand. He's my best friend in the world and we have a lot of fun together. The only thing is that he is as non-horsey as they come! I love riding and spending hours at the barn. My husband does not! There are several other couples at the barn where I board and they both come out and spend time at the barn together even if one of them is non-horsey and is just learning to ride. I am looking forward to travelling to rides and shows this summer but I don't think he will enjoy it much. I hate to drag him along if he's not going to love it too. He is supportive of my riding. He encourages me to go spend time with my horses because he knows it makes me happy. He doesn't gripe about all the financial costs. He even let my buy a new foal - my dream horse - last month despite our very meager budget. The foal has arrived but he hasn't even been out to the barn to see it yet. We own several dogs as well (my babies) and live in the city. He knows that I don't like to leave them crated for long periods of time so he works his schedule so that he can be home exercising the dogs while I ride. He is very accomodating. Now I realize that it is important to have your separate things to do in a relationship. But horses are a huge part of my life and I would like him to be a part of that aspect of my life. I will have a great ride and be beaming or just enjoying the company of a warm muzzle but I still feel like something is missing because I can't share it with him. If I ask he will come to the barn with me but I can tell how much it bores him so I don't bother asking anymore. Do any of you ever feel this way? What do you do to deal with it? Thanks, Tam =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-= Ridecamp is a service of Endurance Net, http://www.endurance.net. Information, Policy, Disclaimer: http://www.endurance.net/Ridecamp Subscribe/Unsubscribe http://www.endurance.net/ridecamp/logon.asp Ride Long and Ride Safe!! =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-= =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-= Ridecamp is a service of Endurance Net, http://www.endurance.net. Information, Policy, Disclaimer: http://www.endurance.net/Ridecamp Subscribe/Unsubscribe http://www.endurance.net/ridecamp/logon.asp Ride Long and Ride Safe!! =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=
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