Men LOVE to be needed and they love to be
complimented. Tell him you *need* him to help you hold your adorable foal while
you get something. Be gone just long enough for him to get bored and discover
how cute a foal face is. If you can, buy him his own horse that he picks out
(after you make sure its a safe one) and tell him you REALLY *need* him to go
trail riding with you and that green horse that needs to just walk thru that
really beautiful area of the trail. Find ways of needing his opinions, help and
large, strong body to help around your horses. Tell him how *hot* he looks in
the barn all dirty and around your favorite animal. Call him and tell him you
are really late and will he please go and and feed the horses. Make it easy for
him so its fun. Then be really late so he might spend some time out there. Never
(I mean NEVER) criticize him on how he rides or does things around horses. Give
him constant compliments on how well he is doing things even if he is riding
bad. We ALL rode bad in the beginning. Don't be all "know-it-all" and tell him
how to do too many things. Let him discover things on his own like we all did.
Go on a walking ride on a beautiful day and kiss on horseback and pack a really
yummy sandwich for him. I think you get what I'm saying. My man is getting more
involved every day and its so wonderful. He is actually cleaning stalls now and
I tell him what a great job he does and that he is better at it than me
(not really, but who cares?!) I constantly tell him how handsome he looks on his
horse and have taken lots of photos of him around and on his guy. I may never
get him on an endurance ride but I did tell him that I *needed* him to
rub my back at vet checks and that I couldn't do it without
him!!
