Need help with severly pair-bonded mare.....(long)

["Cathy Sabe" <csabe@servicepaper.com>]

Hi gang,

I would appreciate feedback on a challenge I am dealing with with a 16 year old Arab mare I have been rehabilitating for the last year.  First let me say that she and I have had what I consider a very successful endurance season this year, and she has put forth a wonderful effort and we've had a blast. 

The challenge:  She is severely pair bonded to a Morgan mare she grew up with, the party I bought the Morgan from gave us the Arab as they could not afford to keep her, and she had been abused at one home she was care-leased out to.  With the help of a good trainer, we have been able to deal with many issues and try to rebuild trust to humans.  She is a great mare when away from our property, and when we had the mares boarded at separate farms, she was very calm and willing.  Now that we have our own place this Arab goes "crazy", almost described as "leaving her body" when the Morgan is out of sight.  Just going in the barn to be groomed can be very dangerous as she does not seem to be aware of anything around her and has even injured herself on one occasion trying to locate the Morgan.  We have tried many many things to deal with this, and feel we are at a cross-roads on what to do with her.  We cannot part with the Morgan, so must decide whether to find a good home for her, board her out--don't like that option--or hopefully find a solution, that's where you all come in, we are hoping a suggestion will come through that we haven't already tried, as she is a great trail/endurance partner, goes ANYWHERE.  Thanks much,

Cathy.